Behaviour
Supporting children and family psychologically in an emergency
Self-help, not a substitute for medical or psychological treatment.
In acute danger to life or a medical emergency, call 144 (ambulance) or 112 first. In acute mental distress: 143 (The Helping Hand), for children and young people 147.
Children take their cue strongly from the adults around them. How you behave shapes how safe your child feels. With a few principles you give support — even if you are tense yourself.
What gives children security
- Your calm first. Children read tone and body language. Stabilise yourself first.
- Honest, but child-appropriate. Explain simply and age-appropriately; don't overwhelm, but don't lie either.
- Closeness. Physical contact, holding hands, taking in your arms, if the child likes it.
- Structure and rituals. Familiar routines (mealtimes, bedtime ritual) give support.
- Listen and allow feelings. Fear, anger and sadness are allowed — don't talk them away.
- Small tasks. Being allowed to help gives children the feeling of being able to do something.
What to watch for
After distressing events, children may become clingier, sleep worse, start wetting the bed again or withdraw. This is mostly normal and temporary. If it persists for a long time or worsens, talk to the paediatrician or turn to 147 (Pro Juventute).
- For beginners: the most important thing is your calm presence. "I'm here, I'm taking care of you" works more strongly than any explanation.
- Expert tip: limit the flood of news and screens. Repeated disaster images particularly intensify anxiety in children.
Related references
This content is for information only and does not replace medical or psychological treatment. If symptoms persist or worsen, get help — in acute mental distress call 143, in acute danger to life call 144 or 117.